July 18, 2023
January 31, 2021
Today I am 2556 days sober. I got sober on the 1st Feb 2014.
I had probably been trying to get sober actively for 5 years before 2015 and I reckon for 10 years before that I had known that ‘normal’ people didn’t drink to hand over completely and my desire for oblivion was unusual. Right from the off it had always been that way for me.
In thinking about this blog a good mate had asked me whether I would talk about why I drank the way I did. That is a hell of a question and not one I think I have fully understood just yet but I have some of the pieces of the jigsaw and will be finding out the rest in some pretty intense psychodynamic work during this year.
So seven years on, my fear of getting sober and being boring has absolutely gone. If anything I have grown more into me and am much more comfortable in my own skin. The coping mechanisms I had created to manage me had to be tossed out and replaced with much healthier ones and whilst some of those are still work in progress I’m proud to be sober and I’m very relaxed about not being anonymous about that. If I can help even one person get sober then the risk I take in not being anonymous is absolutely worth it.
Acceptance is key and this understanding has stood me in good stead to handle the pandemic, as an extrovert this hanging around at home and not seeing other people is torture but accepting the situation back in March of 2020 meant I didn’t fight it constantly and by definition drive me (and others) up the wall!
What keeps me sober now is love and connection to something bigger than myself. The me of 7 years ago had no concept of what that meant. I respect me, I’m more gentler with me than I was, the term self care means something to me and I’m proud of me, proud that I can overcome something that is so fundamental to me. I am designed to seek out oblivion and every day that I don’t do that I am designing a new me, a better me than respects me and can learn and change and do something positive in the world.
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